advice about relationship

[Dan Pare]

hey guys. I'm just looking for a little advice about my relationship with my girlfriend. We've been together for 4 months today actually and we saw each other yesterday. Recently, her uncle died and both her and her family are taking it very roughly.

next weekend is her birthday and yesterday she mentioned that shes not sure if she wants to do anything and that shes emotionally tired and stuff. when i dropped her offat home after getting lunch i said that i wished we could spend time together on or around her birthday and she went on to explain that shes not sure and stuff.. but she did so in an angry kind of way.

so on my way home which is like a 30 min drive it kind of gave me time to think and i realized i was kind of selfish and stuff so when igot home i texted her and apologizd forbeing selfish and she never responded.. although she did have to work from 6-11. so i drove to herwork and wrote her a letter and gave it to her.

so i got home around 10 and i worked this morning and while i was on break i went on facebook on my phone and her status said.. "annoyed of ur immaturity.. need a vaca a real one". and i was just like wow and texted her and stuff.. later on she suggested we go on a break because she wants time with her family so she can think things thru. up till now we really hvent had any problems at all..

i was wonderig if u guys had any advice? i told her i respected her decision so im gonna give her the time and space she needs. she said she just needs a few days for herself.

any advice good or bad would be appreciated

 

[DM RC-blazer]

Hmmm, people hate being bugged, just give her time to herself.

 

[DM Psycotic]

damn
im kinda going through the same shit, cos the girl who im chasing broke up with her bf today, and so shes real sad and i have no idea what to do.

If i were you, i would just give her the time she needs. Maybe buy her something nice. Anything that will cheer her up. But remember to do this in a few days or so. i know it seems hard, but you're just gonna have to suck it up.
Shes going through a really rough time, which is why she is being like this.
i remember back in november, the day that Black Ops was released, my uncle was in hospital for severe first degree burns. The same day, my cat got run over and my girlfriend broke up with me. She broke up with me because of my depression. Well, due to my depression, i was neglecting her. and so she broke up with me. after 10 months...

Good Luck, man

 

[Dan Pare]

yupp i'm definitely fine with takingthe break.. we're both 19 i just think we have to focus more on our own lives rather than the relationship itself. thanks guys.

and psycho about ur problem.. just comfort her

 

[DM Bowser]

let her get time off.. sometimes thats all we need. things will get better. just try and look at it from her viewpoint and not yours all the time and if you two are really into each other then you guys will still be together in the end

 

[DM Batman]

I think you did the right thing man . Giving her space is a great way of showing her your love . If this doesnt work out after , then this relationship isnt meant to be ...To The Bat Cave!!

 

[DM Morbid]

I think you tried to hard. If you are doing all the chasing, she will never respect you, which is proven by the fb status she put up. Maybe you love her a lot or something, but i don't think you should have written her that letter and showed up at her work. I also don't think you should have apologized for anything. She was the one getting angry over you simpley asking to spend more time with you. You let her walk over you bro...and then you are the one trying to fix it? Not how it should be.

 

[Dan Pare]

thanks guys.. i appreciate all the advice.. guess all i can do is keep my head up and wait

 

[DM DeadlyCobraX]

ok we all different, n was grown up different ways. heres how i look at it...u chasin her too much i understand u luv her n stuff but dont b writin them letters either thats middle school. she says she needs a break...ok i completely understand that but fk a break thats not my thing. if she really luv u n feels sad about wat happen the she would also realize that she has u, n u always gonna b there for her in the good or bad times. n you can talk to her n help her feel better...but she dont seem to look at it like that.

 

[Dan Pare]

makes sense man thanks.. a lot of my friends have told me that too

 

[DM ViSiioNaRY]

im not gonna say anything really cuz morb and cobra pretty much are right i think.

good luck man